Restart

Restart.

When we work on our computer, there is often a reminder window pop up from the bottom right corner of the screen saying "you must restart your computer for the new software updates". Most of the time we will click on "remind me later" to avoid our work being interrupted.

And there was one day, my computer was on and I was not doing anything specifically. And the window popped up. Then I think, maybe it's not a bad thing to restart my computer. It has been put on hibernation mode for quite a while and never got a real off. And with the new updates, the computer should perform better and run faster after restart.

So I begin to think: what if we can add the restart function into our relationship? How good will that be? With something new, with stronger power and let go the not so good part of it?

In fact, aren't these the three elements that all relationship experts commonly refer to as: "refreshment", "stimulation" and "be forgetful at the right time".
But the difference is, computer can do all the steps systematically without being influenced by emotional and physical condition. Installing, optimizing and deleting and done!

However, human is not a machine, even we try hard to be strictly rational, we can never guarantee a better result.



重启。

想必每个人都遇到过电脑右下角弹出“您的电脑有新的更新，需要立即重启”的提示窗口。大部分时候我们都会觉得很麻烦而想尽可能延后。应该是这大部分的时候都是因为我们正在电脑忙着一些什么。

某天，电脑开着，也没有在做什么特别的事情，我突然觉得重启一下也是蛮好的，安装了更新，休眠了太久，一次重启意味着电脑可以在下次开机以后有更好的表现。于是我不禁想，要是一段关系也可以随时重启会不会更好呢。有更新的安装，更有力稳定的运作，系统可以被优化，一些累积的垃圾也会被清理掉。

其实，这不就是情感专家常说的美好三关系：新鲜感，刺激感，和良性健忘吗。
区别就在于，电脑可以程序化地完成这几个步骤，安装，优化和删除。然后电脑比重启之前明显更好用。

但人毕竟不是机器，不但受各种七情六欲和生理状态的影响未必能做到以上，即使做到，也无法保证为关系添加这些元素之后的效果。